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Shy Bladder Syndrome TreatmentsWikiPedia – “Paruresis is a type of phobia in which the sufferer is unable to urinate in the real or imaginary presence of others, such as in a public restroom”

Paruresis, pronounced like PAR YUR REE SIS, is commonly known as shy bladder syndrome, bashful bladder, public piss problem (ppp), slow dribbles, and pee phobia. Its a very common problem with men, but many women experience similar issues.

The very thought of not being able to urinate in public doesn’t instantly sound overly bad or annoying but trust me, it is! Just ask anybody that experiences shy bladder problems and they will tell you it can be devastating mentally and physically.

It’s not only mentally frustrating knowing you have to urinate and just simply cannot, but it can also be damaging your kidneys by not urinating at the proper time.

For years there really hasn’t been too many cures or fixes for shy bladder syndrome and there definitely is no magic pill to get from your doctor. That’s why I created this site for people battling Paruresis just like I did for many years, and try to help you find a solution on how to cure a shy bladder. I have some very useful information laid out here on the blog and I try to update it regularly. Please see my product reviews that contain the most useful information for curing Paruresis and they go a lot more in depth that I could ever do on here. Also please follow us on Twitter and if you have comments or concerns feel free to drop us a line. Thanks, Steve P.

Are There Remedies for Shy Bladder Syndrome?

Are there remedies for Shy Bladder Syndrome?

Paruresis, also known as shy bladder syndrome, is an anxiety disorder that makes someone unable to urinate in the presence of other people. The condition is also called shy bladder or bashful bladders, and mostly happens when someone visits a public urinal. Those who have this condition are unable to urinate in any other place if there are other people because they feel like all attention is on them.

These days, paruresis affects a large number of people.  It causes the muscles that relax to allow urine flow through the body system to tighten and clench if someone walks into the urinal stopping the urine mid-flow.

It is thought that the main cause of shy bladder syndrome is anxiety of being judged. Another possible cause is a build up of emotions in people who underwent an incident or abuse in the toilet. It can also manifest itself in people who were mocked by other kids in the toilet when they were young.

Paruresis is not something that those who have it can control. At times it might be so extreme that urine completely stops if someone walks in. There are some whose urine stops by just assuming that someone might hear them urinating. This social anxiety disorder affects over 20 million of people around the world impacting heavily on the daily lives.

Bashful bladder mostly manifests itself in men as they are the ones who mostly find themselves unable to urinate in presence of other men at urinals. However, it still affects women as there are some who are unable to urinate in cubicles if there are some people nearby.

Paruresis can be highly frustrating to people who have it because they are compelled to create a schedule that will see them visit the toilet when there are unlikely to be other people around. The people who are at extreme of this condition are unable to use public toilets and make plans to only urinate at their homes.


The good thing is that this condition can be solved using the following remedies:

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    Difficulty Level – Easy

    Graduated exposure therapy

Graduated exposure therapy is a paruresis remedy that involves gradually increasing the affected individual’s exposure to the condition.  For this therapy, patients are exposed to urinate at public places like urinals so as to get their minds used to it. The exposure makes them to start dealing with their problem. Graduated exposure therapy should start at low intensity levels then be increased gradually over time until it achieves desired results. Many medical practitioners recommend it to their parents and it’s one of the easiest and most helpful methods. More info about this method can be found on the product review page or by visiting the PTS System directly.


Difficulty Level – Moderate

Medical treatment

Doctors who recommend medical treatment for paruresis usually recommend anti-depressants for their patients. This is because it is a psychological problem therefore that can be solved in its entirety by relieving stress from the brain of the patient.  There are several brands of prescription medicine in circulation hence a doctor will recommend the best one for each patient. Doctors can recommend sedatives in extreme cases of shy bladder to help patient’s body to have enough rest and be able to relieve the bladder.

Difficulty Level – Hard

Self catheterization

This a method used by some paruretics to ensure that their routine will not be interfered with. Patients who use the method can travel for long distances, stay at work or classroom for long without going to the toilet.

Self catheterization therefore helps patients to avoid the embarrassment of visiting the toilet and then they are unable to urinate. Patients who use this method interact easily with rest of society than those using methods. It is essential to seek doctor’s advice before using self catheterization.

Paruresis support groups

There are support groups offering counseling and treatments to bashful bladder sufferers. Starters start by taking less fluid but take care not to be dehydrated. They then share their problems with fellows who understand and appreciate them.

Paruretics can also attempt cognitive behavior therapy which involves drinking a lot of fluids and using public restrooms when someone is outside their safe zone. Those who succeed in urinating out of their comfort zones   are more likely to succeed in overcoming paruresis which is a form of social anxiety. Over time, they will be able to visit a public restroom   with intention to urinate.

Nowadays, many people understand paruretics without making fun of their condition. There are some public restrooms with fountains or soft music in the background to make paruretics to relax.


Paruresis Breath-Hold Technique Part 2 Of 2


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Step 3. Get to 40 seconds. Keep practicing every day, as many times a day as you can. At first, practice while your bladder is empty. Eventually after a few days or weeks you will be able to hold your breath for longer. Keep practicing until you can get to 40 seconds of holding your breath at about 20% lung capacity. Pay attention to how your body relaxes. Once up to 40 seconds, practice holding your breath standing up or walking around.

Step 4. Breath-holding during urination. Now, you are ready to practice in real life. This step will depend on how bad your pees shyness is. If you feel confident enough, you can start using this technique in public right away. Others with more severe bladder shyness may need to practice at home or in front of a trusted loved one first.

Drink plenty of fluid. Wait until you have to go badly.

Take a normal breath while waiting to pee. Then exhale immediately until you have about 20% of your breath left in your lungs. Then, hold your breath. As you hold your breath, after a while you will notice the “bottom drop out.” Your muscles will relax around your bladder and sphincter and the flow should start. Most of the time, you will begin to urinate well before reaching 40 seconds. Continue to hold your breath for a few more seconds until the flow is strong. You may need to breathe and then hold your breath again if your stream stops midway.

Step 5. Keep practicing. Keep challenging yourself, try to urinate in increasingly more difficult situations. For men, you can practice the breath-hold technique in public stalls first. After you can pee with no problem in a stall, you are ready to move to the urinal. Start peeing in public every day, whether there is someone there or not. Simply use the breath-hold technique and the flow will start. Usually it happens before 40 seconds…and don’t worry, no one will notice that you holding your breath!

Sometimes you may find that your flow stops midway through, if you are still tense or if someone walks in. Don’t panic if this happens. Simply exhale and hold your breath again. After a few seconds, your stream will return.

One more trick to use. You can start holding your breath as you are walking into the bathroom. You don’t need to wait until you get to the urinal. By the time you actually get to the urinal you will be ready to go. If you have to go bad, sometimes you won’t have to wait at all.

Overcoming Bashful Bladder Syndrome & Anxiety

Even after learning the techniques, I still have some anxiety when it came to peeing in public. I was still struggling a bit, which is why I bought the Paruresis Treatment System to supplement the breath-hold technique. Now, my anxiety is almost gone and I can urinate anywhere I want.

The funny thing is now I notice other guys who can’t pee in public! I want to tell them:

“Hey, I feel your pain, and I know how you can fix it!

Read More: My Thoughts On Curing Shy Bladder


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My Thoughts On Curing Shy Bladder Syndrome


People who have never been affected by shy bladder syndrome can’t understand what it’s like. I remember reading an article about paruresis on a popular online news site. The article was pretty straightforward, detailing one man and his struggles with peeing in public. The comments following the story were brutal. About three-quarters of them were from people making fun of those who struggle with shy bladder. It’s funny, because having a shy bladder doesn’t mean you are any less of a man or woman. Among other things, it means you have a strong fight or flight response. Your mind and body are unconsciously looking out for threats, and that causes your body to tense up and makes it almost impossible to pee comfortably.

Facts Aren’t Enough To Cure Paruresis

Unfortunately, knowing all the facts about paruresis does not necessarily mean you will know how to overcome shy bladder syndrome. You may know how many people it affects, and you might know that it’s a psychological disorder. But knowing all that won’t help you fix it.

Paruresis can be debilitating. Because after awhile, it starts to take over your life. The running around and trying to hide your condition from others gets exhausting. We’ve all been there; finding quiet bathrooms, listening for people who might be walking in, and the shame of being unable to void your bladder when someone disturbs you. The discomfort from having to deal with a full bladder. Many of us afflicted by this condition can’t travel for long distances. Some have it so bad they can’t even use the bathroom in their own house if someone else is present. You get sick of it. It seems like such a simple thing to fix, until you are once again stuck in that high-pressure situation, unable to void.

I bought expensive hypnosis downloads. Hypnosis never worked for me. I didn’t find any of them useful at all. Out in the real world I would try and use the bathroom in public after I hypnosis session and I would fail miserably.

But I’m a stubborn person. I wanted a solution. I needed a 100% failsafe cure that would work anytime, any place. I kept hunting online.  Eventually I found what I was looking for. The solution to my problems. I learned the breath-hold technique and combined it with techniques from the Paruresis Treatment System.

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Paruresis Breath-Hold Technique Part 1 Of 2


It took many hours of research for me to find the paruresis breath-hold technique. It seemed so simple that I didn’t believe it when I found it. The most “difficult” part of the technique is just learning a few steps that any healthy normal adult can learn to master in just a week or two.

Now, the breath-hold technique alone may not work for everyone. If you have severe paruresis, like I did, you might need additional help. But the breath-hold technique, along with a program like the Bashful Bladder System, can cure shy bladder.

If you are like me, you might have thought that the solution to paruresis can only be found after long hours of therapy or training. But in reality, the cure is simple and take only a few weeks to master.

The Paruresis Breath-Hold Technique

The breath-hold technique is simple. It comes down to this: you must learn to hold your breath for 40 seconds. That’s it. If you can hold your breath for this long, then this technique will help you be able to urinate anywhere. However there are some steps you have to take in order to make the jump from holding your breath to peeing in public.

There aren’t any shortcuts here. You have to be willing to put in a little bit of work to get to where you need to be. However, the nice thing is the work is minimal. As long as you can keep this up for about a week or two and stay consistent you’ll get to where you need to be…. paruresis free. You will be happy with the results. You can learn more and get rid of your bladder shyness by getting yourself the Paruresis Treatment System, just click on one of the many links located throughout the site and on this page.

Why Does It Work?

This technique serves to relax your body with a build up of carbon dioxide in your blood from holding your breath. Don’t worry, it isn’t dangerous, no more dangerous than holding your breath for as long as you could underwater when you were a kid.

The carbon dioxide build up relaxes the muscles to the point that you can pee anywhere. Again, the science behind why it works is less important than knowing how to use the techniques. Think of it like driving a car, you don’t need to know how an engine works in order to learn how to drive to the ball game.

Let’s Get Started!

Now let’s go through the step-by-step guide. Depending on your level of shy bladder severity this could take anywhere from 1 to 2 weeks to get down.

Step 1. Consult with your doctor. This is extremely important. Please consult with your doctor and let him or her know what the problem is. Paruresis may be the underlying symptom of a more serious medical condition. Make sure that you are physically able and healthy enough to undertake the shy bladder cure training program.

Step 2. Learn to hold your breath. Once you have gotten the go ahead from your doctor, you are ready to move on the next step. It’s very simple. You must practice holding your breath. This step will take the longest, but it is the most important step. It may take you some time to learn to hold your breath comfortably without feeling like you will pass out.

I personally began practicing the breath holding while I was lying down on my back in bed. Once I felt comfortable enough, I moved to practicing while sitting down in a chair. The more you practice, the more quickly you will progress. I personally practiced while I was at work, sitting in my office chair. The nice thing about the exercises is that you can do them anywhere. And no one knows you are holding your breath! Make it into a game, how long can you hold your breath.

Then, I began practicing the breath hold while standing up.For the next week or so you will need to learn to hold your breath. You can do this anywhere, sitting down in your office, or watching TV. At first, start holding your breath for 5 seconds at a time.

Then, try holding it for 10 seconds. Then, 15, 20, until you can hold you breath for 40 seconds. This could take you a few days. Once you can hold your breath for 40 seconds without struggling, you’re ready for the next step…

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